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How to Deal With Haters by Mike Posner

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Mike Posner writes some of the most inspiration e-mails we receive at our office. He recently sent us one with 'How To Deal with Haters' . Visit www.MikePosner.com and sign up for his newsletter to get them sent to you once or twice a month. 

Written by Mike Posner

  1. Don’t DO ANYTHING….at least until the initial sting wears off. Doing nothing until you calm down is a powerful move until you can calm down. Let’s go through the time frame with my experience with Zara’s negative Tweet. 
    • 9:31pm Mike Reads Zara's Tweet.
    • 9:31pm Mike Feels Shitty, Insulted, and Hurt.
    • 9:32pm Mike Considers Firing Back, But Remembers a Quote from Oprah Winfrey: "Doubt Means Don't."
    • 9:40 Mike has considered some things he’s grateful for and cooled down a bit.
    • 9:56pm Mike Calls Tom Gates for Advice.
    • 9:59pm Mike decides to RT Zara and keeps it positive:
    • https://twitter.com/MikePosner/status/702040174193045504
  2. Start a Hate Mail Page. I got this idea from listening to Amanda Palmer. On my website, there is a page solely devoted to the terrible things people say about me. http://michaelroberthenrionposner.tumblr.com/tagged/hate-mail …Instead of letting it fester in my mind, it helps me to process the hate. I know creating a Hate Mail page sounds counter-intuitive, but it works. By sharing the hate mail, my mind goes from viewing it as offensive to viewing it as hilarious. Once while going through the list with my mother, we both began laughing so hysterically that tears were pouring from out eyes. The Hate Mail Page helps me not take myself too seriously. 

 

  1. Be Grateful. Be mindful of your negativity bias and counter it by making a short list of things you are grateful for. Don't dismiss this as new-age nonsense; this is a brain exercise and it works. Tonight, mine looked like this:
    • I am so grateful I am in Hawaii with my family. I know most families don’t get to spend time here.
    • I am so grateful I am healthy. I am truly blessed to have a body in good condition.
    • I am so grateful I have a song on the radio right now. I know this is to be cherished and is rare.
    • I am so grateful for all of the food I got to eat today. I am so blessed to have food to keep me alive and nourish and energized.
  2. Do what feels right. Would engaging in a Twitter feud with Ms. Larrson make me more popular? Perhaps. But at what price? I don’t want to be popular for being mean to young women. I want my music to be popular. I also don’t want Zara to feel the shitty, insulted, hurt feeling back because of something I wrote. I’m sure she already has to deal with her own haters. I don’t want to be one of them. Listen to Auntie Oprah Winfrey: The trick is to learn to check your ego at the door and start checking your gut instead. Every right decision I've made—every right decision I've ever made—has come from my gut. And every wrong decision I've ever made was a result of me not listening to the greater voice of myself.


    If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. That's the lesson.
    ~Oprah Winfrey (Stanford Commencement Speech 2008) 

 

DISCLAIMER: Doing the right thing is scary. It’s lonely. I’ve written about this before in my post “Why I Stopped Wearing Makeup.” Sometimes the only one to congratulate you is your own heart. In fact, that’s part of the reason I am writing this article RIGHT NOW. I want someone to tell me “good job,” and I know someof the comments that will flow in from writing this piece will read, “Great piece Mike,” “You’re so mature Mike,” or “bla bla bla bla” Am I writing from a place of ego? Partially. I enjoy getting compliments like anyone else. But I also genuinely hopes this will help you deal with the hate you will inevitably encounter while chasing your chasing. God speed.

When in doubt, you can never go wrong listening to Oprah :): https://youtu.be/Bpd3raj8xww?t=14m (this link starts with the passage I quoted above, but it’s worth listening to the whole thing if you have time).

Remember, you are exactly where you are supposed to be right now. Don’t forget it. Let me know if this helps at all. All my love,

MP

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5 Pop Up Shop Tips from Stereotype Co

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1. Give People a Photo Opportunity 

It may not be your style to take photos with people like this guy but wouldn't it be nice if the people who shopped at your place became promoters of your shop as well? If the photo is worth talking about; people will share it with their friends and your ideas spread. Give people a reason to talk about you.

 

2. Give Away Stuff

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You may think "Why should I just give free stuff away?" Look at Oprah. Wouldn't it be nice to give someone something that helps them remember you? We can't tell you what to give away because we all do different things but definitely give stuff away for free. Consider it your marketing/advertising. Advertising your business isn't a price it's an investment. It's the thought that counts; not price when it comes to giveaways. Make sure it's memorable. No one wants wack giveaways. Oh yeah and everyone has a business card, step out the box. Do something people aren't expecting.

 

3. Be Authentic

You are in a new place meeting new people hopefully selling something you believe in. Be yourself, have fun and enjoy the event you are taking part of. Your authenticity is something people will pick up on. Be real.

 

4. Don't Be Too Pushy

There's nothing I dislike more than when I enter a place to shop and someone is all up on me. Give me some space. If I like something I will buy it because 1. I can't live without it or 2. It would be a great gift. Be helpful when people ask questions, give suggestions but whatever you do; don't be pushy. You will push people away to buy from someone else.

 

5. Stand Behind Your Product

If you have your own brand wear it to the event. If you have your own clothing line please don't show up wearing a Chicago Bulls Hat and a Diamond Supply T-shirt. Was there a moment you saw Lebron James wearing Kobe's? How weird would it be if you went to buy soap from a lady and she couldn't speak about it.  Do research, know the meanings behind each, stand behind your brand. 

These are 5 tips that we thought could help you next time you consider setting up a pop up shop. We have set up 100+ Pop Up Shops in 30 Cities over the last year; touring with Mike Stud, G-Eazy, Tory Lanes, Rockie Fresh and Hardwell.